Yesterday was a day celebrated by Americans and many non-Americans who live in the country. Companies are closed, people gather, fireworks, beers, and barbecue! What more could you ask life for, right?
Anyway, like the previous 4th of July’s that I went through, this year was no different. I was alone. I stayed home, watched TV, and played video games. I didn’t even bother looking outside for fireworks. It was a simple night. A normal night for me. I’m not American to begin with, so it was not a big deal for me not to celebrate yesterday.
And then a question popped up on my mind. Why do we desire to be with people? “No (hu)man is an island” is what my mind’s mind answers me when I ask about these things. I do think that celebration calls for celebration and celebration, most of the times, is more fun to do with people. Watching a movie in a movie theater is better done with people too.
But, why do we desire people all the time? Why do we feel shy when we go to a restaurant to eat alone? or go to the movies alone? Why do we feel embarrassed when somebody asks us where our “dinner date” is? Why do we even ask people where their “dinner dates” are? How about hiking alone or travelling alone? Going to the beach or pool alone? A lot of times we end up not doing these activities because there’s nobody to do them with.
Where am I getting on with this? Ask yourself: are you too dependent on people that you rely on them to do things? I think we ought to be self-confident enough to be able to handle situations and do whatever we wanna do alone. I think we need to know ourselves enough to not rely on people, or start doing things alone and get to know ourselves more. There is a different kind of joy or ecstasy or assurance, knowing who we are when we’re alone. It’s the kind of joy nobody can give us but only us. Isolation opens our eyes to who we are deep in ourselves. A better definition of our nature compared to what people think of us.
Yes, celebrate with people. Be with people. Go out with them. Enjoy being with them. But don’t forget who you are when they are not there. And celebrate it too.